From the Vault: Treasure the Time

In honor of my only son's 15th birthday, I am reposting this devotion from 2008.  

When all of my children were under the age of five, I used to live for nap time, bed time, date night, and mom's nights out. Church was a huge delight, not for the great sermons, but for the free babysitting! Well...my baby just turned five and I am sitting here wondering why I rushed all of those beautiful years.

I started this mommyhood journey almost 15 (now 18) years ago. I can still clearly hear the voices of older moms encouraging me to enjoy every moment, no matter how loud, smelly, messy, or maddening it was. For the most part I think I tried to do that, but I know for certain I could have worked harder at it. I find myself grasping for memories of chubby bodies and infant cries. Not one of my children draws an unidentifiable picture anymore or needs help pouring a glass of water. I would give a mom's night out for a dirty diaper in a heartbeat!

The Lord only gives us a certain number of years to be a mommy of littles. Those little ones who were so tiny and helpless grow much faster than we can ever imagine. It is not a bad thing to spend time with other moms or go out alone with your husband. In fact, I strongly believe that those times are very important and vital to maintaining accountability and a strong marriage. It is also incredibly important to gratefully treasure each moment with your little people.

The Word tells us to be thankful in all things. Be thankful for the children who still need their mommy to help them go potty - or clean up the floor when they don't make it in time. Be thankful for the little cry during the night calling for you and no one else. Be thankful for Play-Doh crumbs and spilled juice. Soon enough all of that will be over and done with and you will be wondering why you rushed it or complained about it. I can tell you that from experience. The Lord called you, like Queen Esther, for such a time as this. He also called you for such a family as the one you have.

If you are struggling with the seemingly never ending days or you are feeling resentful of your children and their needs, I encourage you to spend time daily in the Word and prayer. The Word is the foundation that you can rebuild your thankful heart on.

Prayer:
Father, thank you for the little people you have blessed me with. Thank you for what you are teaching me about myself through them. Thank you that I am able to have children to care for. Thank you for all the messes and memories. Please help me to focus on the treasure my children are and to let them know each day how precious they are to me.


Challenge:
This week, choose to be thankful for each mess, diaper, cry, etc. Go out of your way to speak blessing over your children each day and tell them how thankful you are for them.  If your little ones are now teens, treasure each late night talk and quick hug.  Maybe you are an empty-nester.  If so, be sure to encourage moms who are struggling with seeing the purpose in the 'endless' days.

Jen Gorton 2008

Who's the Mommy?

by Granny W. 2011


I am once again honored to have a devotional written by my grandmother. Be blessed and encouraged as you read her words of wisdom.

“Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

Lately, as I observe some fathers or mothers interacting with their children, it seems the above Scripture is rarely applied. Many children are being given the opportunity to make decisions that should be reserved for parents. Frequently children are asked what they would like to do regarding naptime or a trip to the store. Does this scenario sound familiar?
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“I am going to the store now and you are going to stay home with daddy. Or would you rather go with mommy?”
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And once they arrive at the store, it might go something like this, “Would you like to ride in the cart or push your own?”
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Did I mention the child is three?

In this situation, in order to squelch the verbal abuse or screaming of the child, most moms and dads, out of embarrassment, give in to the child’s demands. This behavior is not reserved for the store. When you experience it in public, it is most likely happening in the home as well.

Can you imagine the pressure on a young child when they are asked to make choices regarding what is best for their health and well-being? Their minds are not fully developed to take on that responsibility. Should a child never have the opportunity to make decisions? Of course not! But the decisions should be age appropriate and not of a parental nature. That is why God gave you to your child.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise, that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth. And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.”  Ephesians 6:1-4

Dads and moms are the first authority in a child’s life. How the child is trained to respond to that authority will pave the way for their future response to the authority of the Lord and to those outside the home.

“Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.” Colossians 3:20

What starts as a refusal to sit in a grocery cart could very well lead to the refusal to follow a law one day. That sounds extreme, but lack of respect for authority starts somewhere. The good news is that respect for authority starts somewhere as well. We are all creatures of habit; if a child is trained to respect the authority of their parents, they will do so even when they are outside of their parent's care and presence. Let respect for authority begin today in your home!

Prayer:
Dear Heavenly father, my prayer for the moms who are reading this devotional today is that You will give them Your wisdom to discern any problem areas they were not aware existed. Amen.

Challenge:
Summer is upon us and the extra burden of school and schedules has been lifted for a few months. Use this time to discover who the parents are in your home. If it is your children, ask your Heavenly father how you can lovingly reverse the situation. Then enjoy the blessings of watching your children go the way they should from childhood to adulthood.

Granny W. 2011

In Time of Need

By Jen G. 2011

"...incline your ear to wisdom, and apply your heart to understanding; Yes, if you cry out for discernment, and lift up your voice for understanding, if you seek her as silver, and search for her as for hidden treasures; then you will understand the fear of the LORD, and find the knowledge of God. For the LORD gives wisdom; From His mouth come knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright…” Proverbs 2:2-7

While away on an errand I received a call from an upset child about the actions of another child: hurtful words, an angry slap. I could feel the ‘waiting for mom to come home’ atmosphere upon my arrival. Even the dogs were quiet.

“Lord, please give me the words. I am not even sure how to approach this. Wisdom, I need wisdom. Now, Lord.”

The offending child was waiting for me. As we sat on the edge of the bed I was still pleading with the Lord to give me the words to speak into this young heart. We talked about what led to the sin.

“He had his hand over my mouth! I keep telling him not to do that! I got tired of licking his hand, so I just slapped him.”

I never dreamed that in my parenthood I would hear that excuse. “I got tired of licking his hand….”

After I squelched the rising fit of laughter, I heard the wisdom of the Lord come into my mind. At just the right moment He gave me insight into the deeper issue at hand and the words to speak to my precious child.

So many times I jump head first into correcting a child without stopping to beg for the wisdom of God I so desperately need. Why is that? Sometimes it is impatience on my part and other times it is simply because I forget. And yet, at other times it is because I do not really want His wisdom. I do not want the tender tone; I want to let the child know what I really think without concern for their well being or feelings.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

Correcting my children is something I must do. Speaking truth into their lives is something I must do. Doing it in a way that brings life to their spirits and not death is vital. My words and tone carry much weight in the lives of my offspring. I must strive to use those words wisely each time I have opportunity to counsel them, regardless of how my sinful self desires to respond. Praise God that His wisdom is always available to me! All I must do…is ask.

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

Prayer:

Father, help me to remember to come to You BEFORE I speak. Let me see the fruit of Your wisdom in my life. Amen.

Challenge:

Be quick to hear and slow to speak this week as you deal with the sin issues in your children’s lives. Stop and pray quietly, asking the Lord for His perfect wisdom in that moment. If your children ask what you are doing, tell them you are asking your Father for guidance. Not only will it show them that you rely on Him for help, but it will strengthen the relationship they have with you. Seeing you go to your Heavenly Father for help in situations will draw them to you when they need help. In turn, you take them to the Lord. It is a wonderful cycle!

Jen G. 2011



Not Alone

by Jen G. 2011

One moment I was standing with a smile and the next I was flat on my spiritual back; crushed, laid low, hopeless, miserable, humiliated, and wounded. The feelings were so intense that I literally wanted to lie down and hide under something.

But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Ecclesiastes 4:10

What caused this awful moment of incredible weakness? It was a small thing, really – a mother/child thing. It was certainly not uncommon and by no means something to get my knickers in a knot over. And yet knotted they were.

And then…

Friends surrounded me. Women that I do not normally get to visit with for longer than a coke and fries, a hug after church, or a chat while getting my hair cut gathered around me and cared for me. They talked me off my emotional ledge and pointed out the fiery dart of the enemy that was digging into my heart. They encouraged me to not give in to the lies of Satan. They boosted me with words of love and admiration for my child. They spoke truth.

Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.  And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12

Do you know someone who needs the threefold cord of friendship? Is there a lady who is struggling to see the goodness of God or recognize a spiritual attack? Reach out to her and speak truth to her. Be the mouthpiece and reassuring arms of Jesus.

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12

Prayer:

Father, thank You for my mom and other sisters in Christ who held me up when I was succumbing to the lies of Satan. Thank you for giving them discernment into the issue at hand and the wisdom to speak into my life. Help me to remember the example of Christ in them and in turn allow You to use me in another woman’s life. Amen.

Challenge:

Be watchful for opportunities to minister to a woman this week that just needs a friend. Listen for the Holy Spirit’s prompting and act on it, letting Him guide your counsel. Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.

Jen G. 2011

"No, we're not in a hurry...."

Mrs. B 2011

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3

As a veteran homeschooling mom, I have known this verse for years and years, as you have, too, no doubt. It is one of the verses that makes our hearts glad when we reflect on the children the Lord has given to us. But yet, even in my older age, this verse has come alive for me again, bringing change to my heart.

My husband and I had the privilege of spending our first Christmas as guardians of our new child. When we became guardians this summer, my husband bought a balloon for me that said, "It's a Boy!" I was thrilled. The Lord only gave one biological child to my husband and me, so becoming the legal guardian of this boy has caused me much joy. It has caused me to reflect anew on how wonderful it is to be a parent or guardian of a precious gift from the Lord Himself. It has also caused me to reflect anew on how wonderful it is to watch a child bring change to hearts.

This really struck me on Christmas morning. The three of us were going to have Christmas lunch with family, so we needed to get up early to get there in time to open presents, too. I started the shower for my new son to make sure the water was not too hot. He took his shower on his own, but after this, I watched over him as he brushed his teeth to make sure he did not miss any spots. I helped him tuck his shirt in properly and saw to it that he did not missed any belt loops, as he often does.

I helped him put lotion and medicine on his feet, then helped with his socks (he wanted to put his shoes on by himself). I gave his medicine to him and served him the breakfast I made for us. As he sat down to eat, he looked at me with the sweetest eyes and asked me in a most sincere voice, “Are we in a hurry this morning?”

That question pierced my heart. With our first son, I remember always being in a hurry – there was always something to get done, always somewhere to go, always something that seemed to pull my attention away from the “gift” sitting before me. And here was another son sitting before me, voicing what the first one never could.

For you see, my new charge, the one I am now the legal guardian over, is my elderly uncle who has been mentally handicapped from birth. His mental capabilities put him on par with a five or six-year old -- he cannot read or write. For all practical purposes, he is and always will be a “boy.” But despite this mental age, the Lord allowed him to ask me an unknowingly loaded question that has the potential to change me.

So, I looked into those eyes and said, “No, we are not in a hurry this morning.” Was I in a hurry? Yes. Were we in a hurry? No. I asked the Lord for patience as I waited for him to finish his breakfast (biting my lip so that I did not tell him to hurry), as I waited for him to get his coat on (taking a deep breath to keep my cool), and as I waited for him to walk slowly and carefully to the car (as some 71 year-old men do). We, of course, arrived where we needed to go with time to spare.

The little ones you dress and feed in your everyday life are asking the same question of you; they are just not at liberty to say it aloud, as my grown uncle was able to. The cry of his child-like heart (and their cry, too) was to sit and enjoy his breakfast with me, to stop hurrying. I want to change my responses this year. In my every day life, I want to be organized in the things that don’t matter so much so that I have time to invest in the things that matter greatly and eternally (and I want the wisdom to know the difference). I want to be able to say to everyone the Lord brings to spend time with me, “No, we are not in a hurry this morning.”

Prayer:

Dearest Lord, You looked up in the tree at Zacchaeus and invited him to spend time with You. You gently encouraged Martha to choose what Mary had chosen – to sit at Your feet. You took Your closest friends with You in a boat so that You could be with them. That meant You were willing to stop hurrying. Oh, Jesus, please put Your heart into my heart.

Challenge:

Re-read Luke 19:1-10 and teach your children a new song. In Sunday School years ago, I was taught to sing the Zacchaeus song by wagging my first finger at the little man in the tree and to say in a scolding voice, “Zacchaeus, you come DOWN…” At our home, we wave our hands in an invitation for the man to come down and sing, “Zacchaues, PLEASE come down, for I’m going to your house today…” That’s what the Lord’s heart is toward us. He invites us to sit at His feet and enjoy Him, to stop hurrying. May it be – in your home and mine.



To Be Like the Father

“Then little children were brought to Him that He might put His hands on them and pray, but the disciples rebuked them. But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” And He laid His hands on them…” Matthew 19:13-15a

The kitchen is the hub of my home. Each day I teach my children there, cook there, even my laptop is there. The rest of the house could blow away and we would probably be just fine as long as the kitchen (and at least one bathroom) stayed put.

As you probably have deduced from my description, the very fact that I was alone in this room one day this week is a highly unusual thing. Anyway, I was alone and enjoying every minute of it. My hands were busy making calzone rolls and my ears were catching an entire episode of Focus on the Family. Life was about perfect. Then I heard it - the sound of feet on the stairs and a little voice.

“Mommyyyyyyyy….”

The irritation was instant. “How aggravating! Here I am with a little bit of time, finally, to be alone and someone needs me.” For the love of Pete – can’t they ever leave me alone?!!”

Cue the voice of God.

“When is the last time you came to Me and I responded with irritation?”

Ouch.

As a parent, I am a representation of the Lord to my children. One of my most important jobs is to teach them about the Father’s love, compassion, patience, mercy, judgment, righteousness and even righteous anger. If I react with irritation and frustration when a child comes to me with a need, what does that say about the Lord - the One I am teaching them to pray to about everything that concerns them?

My goal is to change my reactions to my precious children to reflect the reactions of my heavenly Father to me, His precious child. He is always fair, full of love, just and merciful, firm and decisive in His correction and punishment, always willing to forgive and give good gifts. He is never too busy to hear me or to answer. I want to be like Him.

“When Jesus heard what had happened [the murder of John the Baptist], He withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Hearing of this, the crowds followed Him on foot from the towns. When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, He had compassion on them and healed their sick. Matthew 14:13-14

Prayer:

Father, thank You for your consistent love for me. Thank you for always being there when I come to You with a need. Please help me to ever mindful of the privilege of reflecting You to my children. Amen.

Challenge:

Watch for opportunities this week to act in the character of God in your relationships. Search the Scriptures for examples of the Lord’s reaction to sin, need, etc. 

Jen G. 2010

Living in a Glass House

I am a stay at home wife and homeschooling mother of five children. The only time I am not being observed or possibly eavesdropped on is when I am sleeping at night or in the shower. And even then I wonder… The option of dealing with my sin issues and bad habits in private is pretty much nonexistent. Whatever I am struggling with, there are five people who are tuned in for the show; no matter how hard I try to hide it and deal with it alone it never seems to work. My children can read me like a book and that is downright frustrating! Sometimes a gal just wants to be snarky without being called on the carpet by a six year old.

Instead of being frustrated, I must choose to be thankful for this glass house in which I live. So many people lack accountability and struggle in their sin without anyone intervening or pointing them in the right direction. How blessed I am to have loved ones daily turning me towards holiness. Of course, sometimes one of my children becomes wise in their own eyes and corrects me in arrogance. I then have the opportunity to teach them the proper way to confront another believer and set them on the path to godliness. It’s a win/win situation!

My transparency with my children teaches them four things: avoiding sin, choosing sin, repentance and forgiveness. At times I do a great job of avoiding sin, but there are many, many times when I choose to do the wrong thing and have to follow up with repentance and seeking forgiveness. No matter what, my children are learning valuable lessons: the joy of victory over sin or the hurt that sin brings and the freedom that repentance and forgiveness brings.

I will no longer look at my glass house as a frustration. Instead I will see it as a blessing that allows me to teach my children the ways of God.

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Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Prayer:
Father, thank You for my glass house. Thank You for daily opportunities to live for You in front of my children. Please help me to choose the holy path and avoid the pitfalls of sin. Let my children always feel comfortable to come to me in love when they see that I am struggling. Help me to receive their words and turn the situation into a life lesson that points them and me to You. Amen.

Challenge:
Do you feel as if you are always ‘on’, being watched and evaluated by your children or husband? Instead of feeling like that is unfair, embrace the opportunity to be more watchful of your sin areas. Become more aware of your example as a believer living with young believers or non-believers. Be thankful for the light shining in the dark corners of your life.

Jen 2010

Using God's ORDER to Bring Order in the Home

Have you ever felt like you were going around in circles with caring for the house? Does it seem like the more you do, the more you’re digging a deeper hole for yourself? Well, that’s how I’ve been feeling for a while. I consider myself to be pretty organized especially with having five little busy bees in our home. But it seemed as if I was no longer a woman who was organized!

I shared my frustration with my husband one morning. Then later on that day, he shared Proverbs 14:1 with me and it blessed me so much. It was truly a word given from the Lord. The verse reads:

“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”

Whenever I looked at this verse before, I only paid attention to the latter part. But, this time, the Lord directed me to notice the first part: “the wise woman BUILDS her house.” The Lord used my husband to encourage me that I am daily building our house. But I just need to make sure I’m taking care of the most important things first, not other things that SEEM to be important and/or to need to be done.

So, I took what he said and the Lord gave me this to work with. He reminded me of His order of things. Here’s what I came up with:

God
Husband
Wife (me)
Children
Home
Community

When I first put this list together, I began to doubt putting myself before the kids. But the Lord affirmed me because He showed me that I NEED to make sure that I’m taken care of in order for me to better care for the kids. You’ll see what I mean when you see my examples.

Looking at this order helps me know the major things that I need to do daily in our home. And once those things are done, other things can fall in place. Here are some examples of major things based on my list:

God
- Worship
- Fellowship
- Studying the scriptures
- Evangelizing

Husband
- Sexual needs met
- Clothes ironed
- Lunch made
- Honey Do’s done

Wife (Myself)
- Bible study, meditating, memorizing, and applying the Word
- Exercising
- Eating healthy
- Resting and regrouping

Children
- Loving them
- Discipling them
- Meeting other basic needs

Home
- Daily house chores

Community
- Reaching out to my neighbors
- Calling, emailing, or sending encouraging letters to friends and family

Now that I’ve put this list together, it’s been really helpful. Even with this list, I still need to remember James 4:15 (paraphrased): “If the Lord wills.” So, as you’re trying to get things in order in your home, consider God’s order and then add your daily things based upon this list.

Prayer:

Dear Lord, please help us as women learn how to better care for our homes. Please give us the wisdom and daily strength to do this in accordance with Your Word. In Your name, Amen.

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Challenge:

Go out for cup of coffee with your husband and seek his guidance on ideas to get your priorities in order. Keep your heart set on hearing the wisdom that the Lord has given your husband for you, not taking his input as criticism. Begin to implement the ideas and take note of how the atmosphere of your home changes.

Zinnada H. 2010

Simply Delightful

LORD, You have assigned me my portion and my cup; You have made my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance. I will praise the LORD, who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me. Psalm 16:5-7
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The Psalmist was almost certainly not referring to a woman’s life at home when he wrote these words. They are perfect for me to pray, however, regardless of the original intent. The Lord of the universe assigned me to the family I have and He has most definitely caused my boundary lines to fall in pleasant places. The Lord gives me the delightful inheritance of a happy marriage as I pray for and honor my husband, seeking his best before my own desires. I am inheriting a peaceful home as I reap the rewards of faithful child training. Beautiful memories are inherited as I set the table each night for a meal shared together. A meek and quiet spirit is inherited as I study His Word and seek His good and perfect counsel.
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Trust in the LORD, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD. Trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. Psalm 37:3-5
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Sometimes I feel as though I am not inheriting a peaceful and joy filled home. When that happens, I stop and examine what I am delighting. Am I delighting in my own peace and quiet instead of dealing with bad attitudes amongst my children? Maybe I am delighting in having shamed my husband into finishing a project. Or, I might be delighting in an extra half hour of sleep instead of my devotional time. Once I pinpoint the reason for the lack of true delight, I refocus my eyes the Lord, seeking His good and perfect will. He will then bring the desires of my heart to fruition because they are once again based on delighting in Him. I then enjoy the delightful inheritance of a peaceful, happy home and relationships with others.
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Prayer:
Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me the true desire of my heart – Your perfect will. Help me to stay focused on You. I know that which is my delight will be my desire. I desire You and all that You have for me and my family. Amen
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Challenge:
Take time to meditate on Psalm 37:3-5 this week. Read it over and over, absorbing the truth of what is written. Examine your life and see if you are truly delighting in the Lord and to what He has called you.

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Jen 2010

Clueless

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Proverbs 2: 10-11
When wisdom enters your heart, And knowledge is pleasant to your soul, Discretion will preserve you; Understanding will keep you...
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This 2004 picture was taken because I wanted to remember what my daughter looked like right before I gave her away. I think the look on her face speaks volumes, so I will skip the details of the hours leading up to the photo shoot. Suffice it to say, I felt completely helpless and out of control. I ended up putting Liddy in her crib, shutting the door, and walking away from her furious screams. I think a video camera was involved at one point to document our suffering for my husband.
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As a mother of five children, six to fifteen years old, there is not a day that goes by that I do not feel clueless in some area of parenting. From questions about God to quarrels between siblings, there is a laundry list of things brought to my mommy lap, with the expectation of wisdom from my lips being dispensed. It scares me. Really, it does. After all of these years I think I should always have the answers immediately. And yet, I do not.
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Proverbs 2:3-5
Yes, if you cry out for discernment, and lift up your voice for understanding, If you seek her as silver, And search for her as for hidden treasures; Then you will understand the fear of the LORD, And find the knowledge of God.
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The book of Proverbs is my life line as a mom. To date, there has not been one situation that has arisen in our home that has not been addressed in this 31 chapter book. Even if King Solomon and the other wise contributors did not mention messy bedrooms, they did address laziness. They might not have talked about the latest top rated TV show, but they did speak on guarding one’s eyes. Proverbs targets the heart issues behind the behavior issues. It also directs us to search the commands and precepts of God’s entire Word to gain understanding.
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I am so thankful for God’s Word, an eternal source of wisdom. Daily I run to my Bible for guidance on a certain subject or area of parenting. Daily I am given the wisdom needed to handle the circumstances and questions before me. Do you feel clueless in your parenting, marriage, relationships? Cry out for wisdom and discernment as you open your Bible and search for the treasures God has for you there.
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Prayer:
Father, thank You for Your perfect wisdom. When I feel unqualified and incapable of making wise decisions remind me to call out to You. You are faithful to answer and give me the wisdom needed for each moment. Amen.
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Challenge:
Read the chapter in Proverbs that corresponds with each day. There are 31 chapters in all, enough to take you through an entire month. Watch how the Lord will give you circumstances to use the wisdom your have gained by reading His Word.

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I also highly recommend the book For Instructions in Righteousness from Doorposts. This topical guide is invaluable in every area of life from marriage to toddlers.
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Jen 2010

Disciplining With A Humble Hand

Fresh Starts is pleased to bring a devotional from a new contributor. Zinnada shares what the Lord is doing in her life at her lovely blog, Three Princesses and a Prince.

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Yesterday was a hard day. The morning began without any electricity due to a storm that past through our area during the night. We were left without any electricity until later that morning. So, I must admit, I was a bit discouraged about that. Not having electricity revealed how much I rely on electricity to get me through the day rather than trusting in the Lord.
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When the electricity finally came on, I was able to turn on the computer. Since we’re taking a school break, I allow the kids to watch their DVD’s and their cartoons. We don’t have cable, but they are still able to view the Disney & Nick, Jr. cartoons through the internet. So, I was trying to turn on one of their favorite Disney cartoons and wanted them to sit quietly as I proceeded to turn it on. Well, as you may know, that was an unrealistic request.
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Just as they were sitting there, one of my dear daughters decided to SLUG her sister! “What?” were my thoughts. When I asked her why, she said that she was playing with her. My husband and I have been telling them NOT to play fight. So, since I was already frustrated with the computer not allowing me to pull up a Disney cartoon, having to deal with that act wasn’t any better.
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So, I asked the dear child to give me her hand. Well, this particular one DOESN’T make her “loving” easy for us. So, having to deal with the matter became harder than it needed to be. After it was over, I felt so tired and discouraged. It affected me throughout the rest of the day. I kept thinking and wondering, “Why does it have to be so HARD?” I kept bringing that before the Lord and had planned to talk about it with my hubby later that night.
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Well, we both had a busy night and weren’t able to talk until the following morning. He suggested that for now since I’m pregnant, it’s best to let him deal with the “loving” when he gets home. I confess, a sense of PRIDE came over me. It’s a little hard to think that I have to wait for a particular child to be “loved” on. But, it’s just for this time.
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During my time in the word, I felt the Spirit lead me to Proverb 13:24. That passage of scripture challenged me to really think of my MOTIVES for “loving”. Am I doing it because MY “law” has been broken? Am I doing it because of my pride? Basically, I need to stop and question…WHY?
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I have to admit, stopping to examine my motives is VERY humbling. Ephesians 6:4 really caused me to REALLY desire to be careful with what and how I’m “loving” the kids. I’ve always looked at that verse being basically for the fathers and it does, but it’s also used for parents in general, which can include Mommy too.
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As I was reading my notes (I use the John MacArthur’s Study Bible), I was humbled by what I read. I began to question if whenever I’m “loving” the kids, is my desire and purpose is to draw them to the Father or to simply obey ME and to NEVER disobey ME again.
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Basically am I setting myself up as the “god” to obey or am I ushering them towards obedience to the God of the bible? I was reminded that based on John 1:13, it’s the Lord who gives the right to become children of God, not Mommy’s “loving”.
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So, what am I saying? I’m not in ANY way saying not to “love” on our kids. Scripture CLEARLY exhorts us to do that. What I am saying is that whenever your child needs some “loving”. Hold that “loving tool” in your hand and recognize your need for His help to be self-controlled and gospel centered at that time and then SWIFTLY be ready for reconciliation. Knowing that your child is not going to change his or her behavior based on your actions, but only by the grace of God through His choosing to save their souls. Let us “love” on our children with a humble hand praying that through our obedience in dealing with the situation that God would one day choose our child to be in the kingdom.
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Prayer:
Dear Lord, thank You for showing me my sin of pride whenever I’m “loving” our children. Please continue to humble me at that very moment in order for that child to see his or her sin and need to trust in You for salvation one day. In Jesus name, Amen.

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Challenge:

When you are faced with disciplining your child this week be sure to stop and consider what was shared this week. Ask yourself the question, "Am I upset because my child caused me to be inconvenienced or am I upset because my child's heart is not in line with the Lord?" Then be sure to stop and pray, relying 100% on the Lord's grace and wisdom to get you through the time of "loving".

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Zinnada Hodges 2009
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Other references:
Titus 3:5; Hebrews 12:5-11; John 1:13; Ephesians 6:4

Boundless Mercy

I awoke on Monday with such a ‘blah feeling’. It was not that time of month so no excuses there. I sat on my comfy couch, with coffee in hand, turned on the light and talked to God; “Lord, You MUST show me what my problem is! I want You to tell me so I can fix it.” I began reading my Bible and God gave me an "Aha!" moment.

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Matthew 12:7 But you would not have condemned those who are not guilty if you knew the meaning of this Scripture: ‘I want you to be merciful; I don’t want your sacrifices.

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You see, the day before I was rattling off to my husband a list of things he did that upset me. Poor man! In addition I had been stewing daily over my children’s behavior and frankly felt like giving up this entire thing called homeschooling! On Monday as I read God’s word I should not have been surprised to get a message straight from the Lord. This is what He spoke to me through Matthew 12:7, "Dawn, you condemned your husband and the kids who are not guilty. No matter how much you ‘do right’ by making meals, loving your spouse, serving your children, homeschooling with this method and that method, keeping a clean house, being a housewife, reading the word, spending time with Me, that is all worthless if you are not merciful. Dawn, I do not want you to focus on those ‘sacrifices’. I love you and will take care of those things. For now I want you to be merciful to your family."

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I began to search the Scriptures and found out what God thought of my ‘sacrifices’. I encourage you to read the same verses: 1 Samuel 15:22-23, Psalm 40:6, Isaiah 1:11-17, Jeremiah 7:21-23, Hosea 6:6, Psalm 51:16-17, Proverbs 21:3, Micah 6:6-8, Mark 12:33.

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Sacrifice: Anything offered to God. Yep, that’s what I was doing when I was trying to be a good wife, be a good mom, be a good homeschooler, etc, etc. God showed me over and over in His Word that what I was sacrificing was not bad, but MOST importantly I needed to be merciful.

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At this point I decided to look up the meanings of the other words the Lord kept speaking to me. Mercy – Forbearance from inflicting harm as punishment, compassionate treatment of an offender. Exercise compassion or forgiveness, willingness to spare or help. When my husband or my children offend me in some way God asks me to show them mercy. I then looked up "offender" in the dictionary because I was not certain it was truly offense that I was dealing with. I’m a slow learner! Offender – To cause to feel hurt or resentful; wound; ANNOY.
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ANNOY. That’s it! My children can often annoy me (sad, but true). When they sin or do not do things as I expect them to I get annoyed. God in His faithfulness directed me to another verse. Romans 2:1 says that I am just as bad as those I am annoyed with. I do these very same things according to God. He also showed me that I am blameless and without a single fault when I am before Him. Colossians 1:22. Wow! God shows me mercy and grace every day when I do not deserve it! That is what God wants of me when I am offended by my children, husband or anyone for that matter.

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I am silly to believe my children will not sin simply because I have taught them the right way. God says in His word that we are bent toward evil from childhood in Genesis 8:21. God is patient and does not give up on me when I come to Him with a repentant heart again and again. In Nehemiah 9:28-31 God repeatedly shows graciousness and mercy to those who do not even deserve it. What an awesome God we serve!

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God confirmed my thoughts after studying Isaiah 1:11-17. He is tired of my sacrifices. I am done sacrificing and ready to show mercy. I still have a long way to go and to be totally honest I do not understand all of God’s ways. To me, it makes more sense to do good for the Lord, sacrificing things for Him, but He says in His word, “I want you to be merciful! I have had enough of your sacrifices.” How can I possibly argue with that?

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Thank you Lord and please help me to be merciful.

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Prayer:

Eternal, Merciful God, thank You for leading me by Your Word. You speak to me clearly and give me perfect solutions to cure my sin. Please help me to keep Your Word at the front of my mind and heart at all times. Amen

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Challenge: Take the time to read each of the verses in this devotional. Each one is linked to Bible Gateway and will allow you to read them in several translations. If you struggle with being merciful to others, do your own in depth study of God's mercy poured out for you. It will change your heart for the better!

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Dawn Borris 2009

The Idol of Self

For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. James 3:16
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When my children were born I knew that being a mother would be hard work. I knew there would be long nights and bad days, a ton of laundry, and changes in what dinner looked like at our house. And yet, when life really did get hard I was completely shocked. Suddenly what I wanted or needed no longer mattered. Who cared if mommy liked lentils and rice? No one else did, so apparently it was a yucky meal. Who cared if mommy liked Pollyanna? No one else did, so it was a banned movie. Who cared if mommy hated the beach? No one else did, so it was a favorite destination. No one else seemed to see the value of a nap, a quiet hour, wiped off counters, or chicken noodle casserole.
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The idea that what I wanted really was a mute point was maddening. After all, I am the mommy. And if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!
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I was bowing to the idol of self. The idol of self is the idea that my needs, wants, and desires are so important that others have no business getting in the way of those things. Getting interrupted during my quiet time brought harsh words and looks of disapproval. Sleeping late was more important than my children getting a good breakfast. My like of certain foods was worth others literally going hungry for the night. Plain and simple, this idol is the sin of selfishness and self seeking.
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James tells us that where self seeking exists, confusion and every evil thing are there. It is true! Think of the last time you insisted that your way was the only way. I am certain that peace was not permeating the atmosphere. In my own experience tempers flared and feelings were hurt.
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But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. James 3:17,18
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Some might worry that dying to self means teaching children that they are the center of the universe. On the contrary! I am in no way saying that we only cook what our children like or never have rules or discipline. I am saying that our response to situations speaks volumes on what we think of Jesus and His example. Jesus came to serve. He did not crab about washing feet, cooking dinner - on the beach no less, fixing broken things (think of Peter and the guy’s ear in the garden), or dying for something He did not do. He was always available to talk and minister, even when He was trying to get away and be alone for a while. Matthew 14:12-14 He had wisdom from above and lived in that wisdom daily.
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When I insist on living my life as though I am the most important I teach my children to live as if THEY are the most important. I live an example of self seeking and selfishness that is easily learned by impressionable little people. There is a much better way, however. It is not easy by any means, but the fruit it yields is so much more desirable. I need to ditch the self seeking stuff and grab the wisdom from above!

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Prayer:

Father, I desire to be like Jesus, a cheerful servant to all who glorifies You in everything. Please help me to walk in the patience and self control that is mine in Your Holy Spirit. Let my life be an example of Christ likeness to my little ones.

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Challenge:

This week be mindful of times when the idol of self demands your attention. When that rises up it is a sure sign that you need to do the opposite of what you feel - not an easy thing, but possible! Remember to walk in selfless-ness cheerfully or it really doesn't count!

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I highly recommend the book Age of Opportunity by Paul David Tripp. Although this book is marketed to those with children entering or already in the teen years I believe it is vital reading for all parents, regardless of the age of their children.

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Jen Gorton 2009

Knowing

Our family home schools in a relaxed way. That simply means that we do not use rigid lesson plans or a lot of textbooks; narration, copy work, Bible study, and a lot of reading aloud are used instead. Recently a friend made a comment implying that we did not know what we were doing. I laughed it off, knowing that she probably did not mean it at all the way it sounded. Of course, maybe she did, but I’m not going there…
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As I thought about her words I began to question if we really DID know what we were doing. Were our kids going to be academically stunted because we used a method that did not attach a grade to a child? Would they turn out socially inept because we sheltered them more than the average children? I did not actually freak out, but I was teetering on the edge. The Lord was gracious and stepped in to stop my impending crash.
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The Lord reminded me that we were on the exact path He put us on fifteen years ago when we had our first child. We knew from the beginning that we wanted our children to have a clear view of Who the Lord is, what Jesus did for us, and how to walk in a way that brought honor and glory to Him. As time went on and we matured in our own walks with the Lord the plan only became more firm. Home schooling has been a great vehicle for this, but even if we had placed our children in a brick and mortar school the call would have remained the same.
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Our days might not be filled with typical academic courses or tests, but they are filled with tons of discovery, character training, and Biblical world-view training. We filter everything we learn, from botany to math, through God-glasses. Our desire is that our children know that everything in life has a connection to the Lord and His Word; nothing falls outside of His scope.
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Being a mom is hard, home schooling or not. There are always questions in our minds: Do I spend enough time with my kids? Did I potty train too late? How did I get a selfish kid when all I do is serve them, it seems? Did they catch that cold because I was not cautious enough? Am I a good enough teacher in my home school? WHERE did that child learn to pick their nose? I encourage you to stop asking these questions. Instead, ask ones that have bearing on your child’s spiritual life. Am I teaching my children to love God’s Word? Am I truly living what I teach them? Do I need to step up the character training? Is my child learning to discern between good and evil according to the Word?
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The response to my friend’s statement is this – Yes! We know what we are doing! We are training the next generation of church leaders, community servers, wise counselors, godly parents, loyal friends, and integrity filled employees and bosses. Our grandchildren will have parents who have been taught to love instruction and to take firm hold of wisdom. Oh yes, we know what we are doing.
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My child, if your heart is wise, my own heart will rejoice!Everything in me will celebrate when you speak what is right. Proverbs 23:15, 16
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Prayer:
Father, please help me to listen to You and to filter all other opinions through the Scripture. Thank You for giving my husband and me clear direction in Your Word regarding the raising of our children. Our desire is to stay the course and stick to the path. Guide us daily. Amen.
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Challenge:
If you have been facing feelings of inadequacy in your parenting or home schooling stop and examine the source. Are the feelings promptings from the Holy Spirit or unwarranted criticism from those who walk differently? If you and your husband discern that they are from the Holy Spirit hop to it and start searching His Word and His direction on what and how to change. Consider drafting a Family Vision Statement to help you stay the course. If you would like to read our family statement, send me an email.
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Jen Gorton 2009

Be on Guard

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil. Proverbs 4:23-27

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Proverbs 4:23-27 was a passage I read often as a teenager and I have used it at least once a week with my children since they were old enough to understand it to some degree. In recent months the import of these verses has loomed greater in my heart.

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Being a homemaker is a wonderful calling. Your days are filled with hugs and kisses, pictures colored by little hands, ironing your darling's shirts, funny questions, tears that only a mommy can dry, errands for your husband, pudgy bodies to clean, and snacks to make. Sometimes, however, those things get old. You feel worn out, used, unappreciated, and taken advantage of. It becomes easy to become dissatisfied and wishful of another lifestyle. Maybe you start to check out emotionally and turn to the television, many mom's nights out, those racy paperback novels, or internet social sights.

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Ladies, if you are feeling discontent and drawn away emotionally from your husband and family please read Proverbs 4:23-27 again and again. Guard your eyes, your ears, your mind, and above all, your heart. It is easy to think that "getting away" in the form of a book or the computer is innocent. Sometimes it is, but when it becomes a constant draw and consumes your thoughts and time, be assured that a problem is growing. This problem can end up pulling you from your family and your relationship with the Lord. It opens you up for deception by the enemy. It can also destroy the beautiful life the Lord has given you.

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If you think this would never happen to you, do not be deceived. The enemy lurks about seeking whom he can kill and destroy. A discontent woman, focused on herself, is a prime target. What better way to tear apart the family than by targeting the glue - Mommy. Be on your guard. Stick closer to Jesus than you ever have before. Now is not the time to be drawn into old relationships, wistful thinking, and fantasies. The time is drawing closer to the Lord's return. Be intent on your calling as a wife and mom. Spend your time praying for the husband and children who at times frustrate you.

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Your greatest contribution to the kingdom of God at this time is encouraging and supporting your husband as he leads your family, both of you raising godly children to send out as arrows. That is no small calling! What greater blessing than to be poured out as Jesus was for us? He came to serve others, knowing that it would take His very life. Oh, to be like Jesus every day!

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Prayer:

Father, please set a watch before my heart. Pull my face up to gaze at You when I am focused on myself. Remind me daily of Christ's sacrifice of His daily life for those who followed Him. Jesus, thank You for Your perfect example of sacrifice and service, even when it was not appreciated or understood. Help me to never give in to the enemy's lies of having a "boring life." Amen

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Challenge:

If you are struggling with being dissatisfied with your husband or children, turn to the Word and prayer first. Spend time each morning reading the book of John and studying the perfect example of servanthood in Jesus. Ask the Lord to help you capture thoughts of discontent and replace them with the joy of a family and the eternal impact you can make through them.

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If you are drawn to rediscovering old flames from high school or college on social internet sites, may I be bold enough to encourage you to cancel your accounts? If you are tempted to watch soap operas to get your romance fix, unplug the set or leave for the park with the kids. If you want to escape from your children far more than usual, visit a CaringBridge or St. Jude's site and pray for those mommies who would give anything to take their children home and have a reason to clean up their messes.

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Jen Gorton 2009

Choosing Peace

I am about to share something that may shock some of you.

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Occasionally, I am not peaceful.

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I could blame it on a child waking me during the night, PMS, money troubles - a myriad of things could claim the prize. Frankly, only one thing or person can be blamed for my lack of peacefulness. Me.

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Jesus said, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." John 14:27 What Jesus gives to me, no one can take away. I can GIVE it up, but someone else can not steal it from me. I choose to part ways with peace. I choose to take on a burden that draws my attention and energy away from the Lord. I choose to put the cares of motherhood, marriage, friendship, finances, health, and ministry ahead of the promised peace of God.

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Isaiah 26:3 says, "You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You." The solution to having the peace of God is pretty clear. If I am keeping my mind on the things of the Lord (Phil. 4:7-9) then I will be at peace. If I am not at peace, then I am not keeping my mind on the things of the Lord. Pretty simple and no way to get around it.

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I desire that those around me see the peace of the Lord in my life. Spending time meditating on the beauty and holiness of the Lord will cause that desire to become reality and the God of peace will be with me. What a wonderful thing!

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Prayer:

Father, I am so thankful that the way to that peace is by spending time in Your presence. There is no place I would rather be. Thank You, Jesus, for making the way for me to come directly to the Father. Help me to choose the beauty of Your peace over anything else. Amen.

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Challenge:

Begin each day focusing on the goodness of the Lord and His promise of peace. Post some of the peace Scriptures around your home to remind you of the way to perfect peace in the midst of difficult circumstances.

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Jen Gorton 2009

Encourage One Another...

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This past Monday I received a rather unusual phone call. My phone rang while I was at the store, and a small, but very excited, voice shouted from my cell phone, “Nonny! I went in the potty!” What else is a grandmother to do while walking down the aisle of the store while other folks are within earshot but shout back into the phone, “You DID? That’s GREAT, Isaac! You are a big boy now – you went in the potty!” (Of course, I had to then take a detour to the toy aisle to bring home a celebratory trinket in honor of the occasion.)
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Two days later, I received yet another phone call from the potty trainee, telling me about his latest feat. Now this was really big news, as there had been an accident or two in this category. Again, I was within earshot of people, but I praised him and told him to call Saba (my husband) to tell him the news, too. It was great to rejoice with Isaac, as well as with his mother and father, for these are momentous occasions in the life of a two year-old.
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You might be thinking this is a funny topic for a devotional, but I have had all week to think about those conversations. It has been insightful to see my little grandson work hard at getting where he needs to be at just the right moment and to see him be successful at something he is attempting. His mother and father have asked him to do something that is challenging, out of his routine, and probably a little frightening. Yet he trusts and loves them enough to do what they are asking him to do.
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Isn’t that the same with the Lord? He sometimes asks us to do challenging, different, and even scary things sometimes. Yet He is right there with us every step of the way, cheering us on. And not only that, He has given us the Body of Christ to encourage us when we need it and to rejoice with us when we see progress. I am very grateful for the people the Lord has put into my life who cheer me on.
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You may be dealing with a toddler who is going through what Isaac is going through; you may be dealing with a teenager who is facing some huge challenges. Either way, let your children know that the Lord and you are cheering them on and let them see you rejoicing at the smallest step of progress. And who knows – you might get a shouting cell phone call soon, too!

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Prayer:

Father God, thank You for always giving encouragement to go along with the assignments You give us. Everything You place in our lives is for our good and Your glory. I want to remember Your perfect parenting in this area and walk it out with my own children. Please help me to encourage them and love them as they grow. Amen.

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Challenge:

This week, look for the good things that your little ones, or big ones, are accomplishing. When they make even the smallest progress in an area you are working on with them, be sure to acknowledge it. It is so easy to focus on and point out when they slip up. Turn that around this week!

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Julie Bailey 2009

Scripture photo: pbase.com

Seasons

To everything there is a season. A time for every purpose under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

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When my dearest and I said, “I do” little did we know that two months later our first child would be conceived. Our journey of “firsts” began: first smiles, first words, first temper fits, and my first call to Mom for mothering advice. Now, it seems that I am entering a time where others call me for advice for their own “firsts” while I am searching for advice on how to deal with the “lasts.” Unless the Lord intervenes I will never have another baby to breastfeed or another video of first steps. That season of “firsts” is over. Now I am entering a new season.

Our last baby went into a toddler bed and Sunday school and underwear - all in the same month. That alone should be illegal. Our oldest is about to turn fifteen and I feel as though life is going faster and faster. A little study and a lot of prayer helped me to understand and be at peace with the changing seasons of life I am facing.

Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines season as

• time characterized by a particular circumstance or feature
• a suitable or natural time or occasion
• an indefinite period of time.

It also defines in season as

• at the right time
• at the stage of greatest fitness (as in eating – peaches are in season).
  

I like the second definition of “in season” the best. Take out the peach part and it fits perfectly. I am in this season of my life because I am at the stage of greatest fitness for it. If this season came three years ago I would not have been prepared for it. It is here now and I am being equipped for it daily. The yesterdays were sweet and wonderful and I will miss them, but today and tomorrow will be equally sweet because that is where the Lord wants me to be.

Let me encourage you to be joyful in the place you are right now. Even though it might be difficult, uncomfortable, or even completely wonderful, recognize it as the place the Lord has you at this time of your life. Be willing to live in it joyfully and eagerly while waiting to hear His direction for the next season.

Prayer: Father, thank you that you have created me to do Your good work and purpose. Help me as what that looks like changes. Work in me to be loving, patient, kind, and content in the season you have me. Amen.

Challenge: This week look for the blessings in the season you are in. That might be a no-brainer for some and like looking for a pacifier in a dark car for others. Regardless of what your life looks like right now, concentrate daily on the blessings of breath, salvation, and the Word. As you focus on those blessings, many more will come to mind. Counting those blessings and working towards contentment in your present season will fill your heart with joy.

Jen Gorton 2007

Mastering Motherhood

Mastering motherhood has been a goal of mine for the past twenty plus years. There have been many times over these years that I would allow my thoughts to deceive me into thinking I haven’t done all that well. What I now understand is this; I have to remove the idea of “mastering” motherhood in order to surrender to the deceiving nature of these thoughts. Unfortunately the word “mastering” caused me to work towards a false concept of being a perfect mom. Thankfully, God is in the process of correcting this thinking and He is enabling me to come out from beneath the feeling of self-condemnation that has plagued me for way too long. God is also helping me to cut my own mother some slack as I acknowledge before Him that we are all flawed human beings.
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Moms, I hate to break it to you, but we will never be perfect beings, not one of us! According to the Bible, there has only been one that is perfect and it is not us. I now thank God that with Jesus as my Lord and Savior I do have the tools to accept my role as a “Foster parent” of God’s children. Let me explain.
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So many of us say “children are a gift from God,” and that they belong to Him, but then we don’t let Him handle their lives/problems. When there is need/trouble we jump into action before spending adequate time in prayer. We tend to think that we are the only one that is able to get control of the situation and we activate our own plans. I can tell you personally that God has used my broken relationship with my teenage daughter over the past year to help me understand that I control absolutely nothing. He is showing me without a doubt that I am helpless without Him. I have been unable to change neither her heart nor her thinking no matter how hard I have tried. It has truly been a painful journey for both of us but I believe I see a ray of hope on the horizon. I have also accepted that my only responsibility as her earthly mom is to pray, love, guide, and care for her right where she is while her Heavenly Father, through my prayers, works within her as He sees fit. I promise you this is not always easy as some of you may be able to attest to, but it is so necessary for healing and it can be quite freeing.

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As I wait upon the Lord, I continue to hold onto the truth that the God I serve promises to restore that which is lost and I remind myself often that I too was once lost and today I know firsthand what God can do once you allow Him full access. So what do we do as we wait upon the Lord? May I share what I plan to do? I’m going to hold onto His promises and I’m going to pray like I have never done so before because I know that there is great power in prayer. Stormie Omartian writes in her book The Power of a Praying Parent, “The battle for our children’s lives is waged on our knees. When we don’t pray, it’s like sitting on the sidelines watching our children in a war zone getting shot at from every angle. When we do pray, we’re in the battle alongside them, appropriating God’s power on their behalf. If we also declare the Word of God in our prayers, then we wield a powerful weapon against which no enemy can prevail." I love this!

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I am on my knees daily and I am hanging on tightly to these promises.

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John 15:7, “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.”
Psalm 34:17 “The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles.”

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Moms may I suggest a conversation with God today. Share your heart and then step back and watch Him work. I’m getting little glimpses of the miracle of prayer these days and I wait with anticipation of the victory.

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Prayer:
Father God, please help me to remember that You are the Master of all. I surrender my children to You and trust You to guide me as I mother them each day. Thank You that Your word holds the keys to every problem and concern.

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Challenge:
This week, take each and every mommy decision to the Lord, no matter how small it might seem. It only takes a moment to breathe out a prayer for guidance and direction. Be sure to take note of how the Lord leads you each day.

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Pam Crawford 2008

To receive Pam's weekly e-devotional, Reflections, email her at pmcrawfordatwindstreamdotnet.

Treasure the Time with Thankfulness

When all of my children were under the age of five, I used to live for nap time, bed time, date night, and mom's nights out. Church was a huge delight, not for the great sermons, but for the free babysitting! Well...my baby just turned five and I am sitting here wondering why I rushed all of those beautiful years.
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I started this mommyhood journey almost 15 years ago. I can still clearly hear the voices of older moms encouraging me to enjoy every moment, no matter how loud, smelly, messy, or maddening it was. For the most part I think I tried to do that, but I know for certain I could have worked harder at it. I find myself grasping for memories of chubby bodies and infant cries. Not one of my children draws an unidentifiable picture anymore or needs help pouring a glass of water. I would give a mom's night out for a dirty diaper in a heartbeat!
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The Lord only gives us a certain number of years to be a mommy of littles. Those little ones who were so tiny and helpless grow much faster than we can ever imagine. It is not a bad thing to spend time with other moms or go out alone with your husband. In fact, I strongly believe that those times are very important and vital to maintaining accountability and a strong marriage. It is also incredibly important to gratefully treasure each moment with your little people. The Word tells us to be thankful in all things. Be thankful for the children who still need their mommy to help them go potty - or clean up the floor when they don't make it in time. Be thankful for the little cry during the night calling for you and no one else. Be thankful for Play-Doh crumbs and spilled juice. Soon enough all of that will be over and done with and you will be wondering why you rushed it or complained about it. I can tell you that from experience. The Lord called you, like Queen Esther, for such a time as this. He also called you for such a family as the one you have.
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If you are struggling with the seemingly never ending days or you are feeling resentful of your children and their needs, I encourage you to continue with last week's challenge and spend time daily in the Word and prayer. The Word is the foundation that you can rebuild your thankful heart on.
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Prayer:
Father, thank you for the little people you have blessed me with. Thank you for what you are teaching me about myself through them. Thank you that I am able to have children to care for. Thank you for all the messes and memories. Please help me to focus on the treasure my children are and to let them know each day how precious they are to me.
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Challenge:
This week, choose to be thankful for each mess, diaper, cry, etc. Go out of your way to speak blessing over your children each day and tell them how thankful you are for them.
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Jen Gorton 2008